Friday, February 9, 2007

BULLIES!

Bullies. They run rampant through high schools, middle schools, and elementaries. They steal lunch money, tease, pressure their peers, and get physically violent. Most kids are confronted with a bully at some time in their school career.

But when did bullies start appearing at the playground? Two and three year old bullies? Yesterday Chloe and I went to the park. I strapped Alivia in the Mei Tai and pushed Chloe on the swing. It was a sunny day, very rare for February, and there were a few other kids and Mamas at the playground too. I may be a paranoid freak, but I watch my child closely at the playground. Especially since she is not that steady climbing up and down playground equipment. A Mom was there with two girls, a one year old, and a three year old. The three year old and Chloe were playing side by side in the bark, but not really interacting with each other. The older girl took a stick out of Chloe's hand and then got up and ran away with it. My sweet girl looked up at me confused then laughed and said UH OH! She picked up another stick and continued playing. A few minutes later she was climbing up the stairs to go on the slide, and the older girl was coming down. I told Chloe to scoot over so that her friend could pass. The girl stopped right in front of Chloe, facing her. I called Chloe's name again and started toward her. Chloe looked at me and right then the girl shoved her with all of her little three year old force. Chloe went flying backwards off the stairs, tumbling head over heels down 7 hard stairs. She was bawling, but not bleeding or anything. I stood her up and brushed her off but she said "Go home!!!" So we left. As I was leaving I glanced at the mom and hear her say in the sweetest, softest sing-song voice "Oh no no baby, don't hit!!!" Umm...your daughter just shoved mine down a flight of stairs, and THAT is your reaction? Come on lady!

I think I need to prepare myself for the long hard years ahead. I just hate seeing my child hurt, and when it was another child that did the damage, my heart just aches. I know this happens all the time, but it really STINKS to be on the receiving end. Thank God Chloe is a calm, mild mannered child who has never hit another kid. I pray that it stays that way.

I love that my toddler is really sensitive and sweet, she loves to cuddle and read and is uber attached to her Mommy. It hurts to see her hurt. Even though she was fine when we got back home. She even picked up her blankie and said night night Mommy as she walked to her room for her nap. I'm so lucky!!!!

8 comments:

Ingrid said...

:(

Poor sweet Chloe. Big hugs to both of you.

Megan said...

Oh man! That makes me so MAD! Sadly, I guess it is part of being a mom to see our kids get hurt by other kids. Believe it or not, there may come a day when it's our sweet girls who do the hurting!! (Especially in terms of breaking the hearts of boys. Hee hee!) I guess now is the time to be learning how to respond in those situations to let the other child and the other mommy know that this is NOT okay!

Jules said...

Boys? You mean men, right? Because Chloe and Ali aren't allowed to date until after college. LOL!

Yeah, it is so hard to know what to say in situations like that. I knew what to say to Chloe, but I wasn't sure what to say to the mama or her daughter. I hate confrontation, and obviously hitting and pushing wasn't a huge deal to them. I had to bite my tongue and avoid lunging at the mom and wringing her neck!! LOL! It's hard to see your babe get hurt.

Nichole said...

Oh poor baby! I can't believe she got shoved down the stairs!!! I'm glad she wasn't hurt. Wonder what the mom would've said if the three year old had shoved the one year old down the stairs.

Helen said...

Oh that just boils my blood! I'm so sorry poor Chloe was hurt by that child and her wretched mother!

Grace said...

My heart hurts for you Jules. Motherhood is just full of emotions that I never even imagined before. By the way I bookmarked your blog today! Your doing a great job.

Keara said...

I just found your blog. I love it. Miss you Julie.

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